Random Morning Musings

So, i’m not really sure what i’m going to write today, I just thought that I should.

Sometimes, it’s really frustrating to have the particular set of kinks that I do. Not only for me, but for Goddess as well. Goddess is best described as a full blown Lesbian, I just happen to be the exception to her orientation. So of course, this makes finding a Bull extremely difficult.

Oh the fuckery I could tell you all about trying to find one… So far, 99% of the messages have been from gross, entitled, chauvinistic wannabe dominant assholes. Ok we get it, you got a big dick, does that mean you are incapable of operating your brain at the same time? In all of Goddesses ads, she states that SHE is the dominant one, and won’t submit to anyone. She gets messages all the time not even asking, more like telling, her what they want to do. Instant no, and and instant block. It’s not sexy to assume you have consent, or to message vulgar shit when you haven’t even gotten to know her.

Then you have to consider, since Goddess isn’t really into guys, she has a specific look she’s trying to go for.

  • 25-39 age bracket.
  • Piercings and Tattoos
  • Nerdy
  • Bearded and or look like a biker or a viking (hehe)
  • And be a courteous gentleman capable of actually holding a conversation.

She’s met a few that fit all but the last criteria, and it’s fucking frustrating. They start out promising, but become a flake, don’t want to even attempt to get to know her, or after a few messages they start doing nasty talk. As she’s stated that she can’t just have sex with random strangers. She wants a lasting friendship, with benefits. Don’t get us wrong, nasty talk is fine, once you get to know her, but for fucks sake guys, use your brain! If she can’t even have a normal conversation with you, what makes you think she wants to fuck you?

Anyways, enough about that.

Been trying to let my piercing toughen up, for the last couple days of my lockup the underside was getting tender, I asked Goddess if I could be out for a couple of days to let it heal back up, she was nice and let me. When i’m not locked, nothing changes, I still follow all the same rules, I still sit down to use the restroom, I don’t touch myself, for all intents and purposes, I am “Always” locked up. It’s just how I choose to be. Technically I wouldn’t even need a device, but Goddess needs a physical reminder that i’m denied, because without the device she’s tempted too much herself to take advantage of her unlocked toy.

Well, In closing, If your a NICE bull, capable of having a normal conversation, possibly even becoming friends, have a face picture, and are local to us or willing to travel to us, and want some good kinky fun, send Goddess a message. Before you do, Take a peek at the following fetlife links to see if you’re a good fit.


Long week!

So I know it’s been a while since i’ve blogged… My apologies to my 9 faithful readers (followers).

Let’s see… What’s gone on?

Been working on the house. Building one that is. Poured concrete last weekend. Ordered block, won’t be delivered until next weekend.

Went on a work trip, co-driver hit a deer. Was a pretty rude awakening lol.

Last Wednesday, after I got back from a trip, Goddess decided she had a treat for me. When I got home, she ordered me to strip, and lay on the bed. She blindfolded me and after which she removed my cage. I had been a full week without any unauthorized orgasms and have been in chastity for double that now, so you can imagine that I was pretty sensitive and had a hair trigger. She only had intentions to tease me enough to get me super horny, then had a special treat for me, more on that later. So she kind of got distracted. She ended up teasing me so much and got so horny herself that she accidentally ended up making me cum. Another 7 days punishment time… I have a feeling i’ll never have a free orgasm again, only unauthorized and ruined ones 😉 I think i’m ok with that… for now anyway haha.

So, after which, she had me sit up, still blindfolded and lead me into the shower. She had me get down on my knees (awkwardly I complied, we figured out next time I’ll just sit cross legged because our shower is tiny) and she hovered over my face. Well, you can imagine what she WANTED to do, but her bladder wouldn’t listen lol. Oh well, for me, the thought is what counts. It’ll be the first time it’s ever happened, and I hope for a second attempt soon. So far, that’s been all this weeks sexy stuff.

Onto the other part. As part of our routine maitenence, Goddess removed my cage tonight for cleaning, and when I went to put my circular barbell in, it hurt like a bitch. I knew I had to take my cage off for healing, as my piercing hole is quite tender on the underside. I know these things happen, but I can’t wait for the time when I can just wear the Contender long term.

So that’s about all for now, thanks for reading!


Busy Busy!

Hey everyone! I haven’t had much to write about as of late, as i’ve been extremely busy with non-kink related life.

I finally got what I feel like is going to be the perfect fit for my Contender, I had to order a new base ring with a slightly larger gap.

So now the specs of my cage are:

  • Contender with PA upgrade
  • The length of the PA hook is long enough to touch the underside of the top horizontal bar.
  • Cage Ring (inner diameter): 1 1/4 inch (32mm)
  • Flaccid Length: 2 inches (51 mm) +/- 1/16″ due to new gap.
  • Lock Style: Padlock Hole in Lock Sleeve
  • Prince Albert Upgrade: 4 Gauge – 3/16″ – 5mm
  • Piercing Setback: 1/2″
  • Gap: 7/16″
  • Base Ring: 1 3/4″ (44mm) – Round

My balls finally sit even inside the base ring, previously with the last ring, after the cage portion was locked on, It would cause one of my balls to sit too high and tight, eventually causing pain and rubbing.

You ever put a new chastity on and instantly just KNOW you’ve got the right fit? That’s how it is now… I am loving the way it feels. Goddess and I are going to give it a test run for a week and see how it feels.

As far as future release date? Well, I’m sure there was one incident that I didn’t blog about, but it earned me yet another week of lockup time. As of this entry, I’ve been in chastity for 13 days, my last orgasm (unauthorized) was 6 days ago, and I don’t have the chance to earn a normal authorized orgasm for another 15 days. (June 24, 2018)

Well, that’s all for now! Small hint to my readers, I’m more likely to blog more if I get more interaction. Post up some comments, let me know what you think!


Chastity and all the devices…

My many, many devices it took to find the perfect fit. 🙂

So i’ve been interested in chastity for a long time. I don’t know exactly when or how it started, but I knew I enjoyed the idea behind saving it all up, it just made it extra special whenever I finally did let myself cum.

I had always been a self locker up until I met Goddess. As such, i’ve gone through a great deal of devices trying to find “the one” that was perfect for my anatomy. I’m pretty small when i’m not excited, and I grow to the smaller side of average when I’m excited.

My first device was a CB-3000 from A.L. Enterprises. When it came in the mail I was super excited, but that excitement quickly turned into frustration. It was too big in the cage portion both in length and diameter, the metal in the hinged ring irritated my skin, and was generally a pain to wear. I toughed it out and wore it anyways, and I thought to myself, Yes, I’m doing this. I spent a lot of time adjusting it every time I wore it, and eventually I even tried to modify it by shortening it. I eventually gave up on the CB3K and forgot about chastity for a while.

The second device I remember was some years later, A.L enterprises came out with a CB6Ks (small). There were quite a few improvements vs the CB3k, The base ring was solid, the cage diameter and length were smaller and shorter, but there were still a lot of issues. The CB6Ks split on me one day, pinched my skin so terribly that I bled. I didn’t even bother trying to glue it back together, It went straight into the trash after that day.

I believe I got a prince albert piercing sometime between the CB6Ks and my next device, because the next device I remember having was a PA-5000. Again, A.L. Enterprises. Man, these people had gotten a lot of my hard earned cash over the years, until this device anyway. Again, it wasn’t made for smaller gents like myself, the plastic pieces came with sharp ridges at the molding lines, and just generally didn’t work for me.

Now we get into some of the more expensive and difficult devices i’ve had…

I ordered a PA device off chastitytube and without going into too much detail because they do make some amazing devices, it was very heavy, needed a lot of work I wasn’t capable of doing at the time, and the piercing wasn’t in the right position for me (I’d later find out that I just got a funky piercing)

About this time I was getting pretty frustrated, nothing i’d done up to this point in pursuit of a good chastity device was working, there was always some kind of issue, in either craftsmanship, fit and function, or some other reason (like being almost 2 lbs of stainless steel hanging from a 6ga piercing? lol)

I heard about MatureMetal, and loved the look of the jailbird. I saved up and purchased one, and while it was leaps and bounds better upon arrival, I still had some complaints. Minor ones mind you, but read on, i’ll detail everything as best as I can remember.

My jailbird as arrived was the correct diameter, but because of my anatomy it didn’t fit length wise. I also had a problem with the base ring being round, the device slid all over, pinched me, and just generally pissed in my wheaties. I sent it back for adjustment, thinking the length issue was causing most of these problems. After a costly price paid and a lengthy time waiting, the cage arrived back in my possession, while the length issue was correct, it still rotated all over and generally wasn’t secure for me. I opted to use a Captive Ball Ring in my PA (at 4ga by this time) and secure it over one of the horizontal bars. This led to more frustration, because the piercing would pinch me at the most random times.  I eventually asked for a custom double base ring, and here’s where my relationship with MatureMetal ended.  I’ve learned a lot since this so I can say now, that it was not done how it should have been done. The double base ring was only welded at two or three points, but on the INSIDE of the ring… Well anyone who doesn’t know welding, listen up. Weld start and stops create the potential for very sharp craters… These craters also trap gunk and funk, so you can imagine that the new double base ring (in oval shape, forgot to add that) while it had the surface area to stay put, it also was a literal pain, and would quickly smell terrible thanks to the new little hidey holes. I was working in the shipyard by this time, and had made friends with a kink friendly welder, I told him about my issue and he offered to weld the entire seam of the inside ring and sand/polish it smooth for me. This was much much much better, but the PA pinching still was too much for me. I eventually sold the device to a gent in Australia and just forgot about ever getting what I actually wanted out of a chastity device.

Until Goddess. Fast forward many years, Goddess is discovering that she likes being the dominant, the Lady in charge. I bring up chastity, and she’s interested but intimidated. I offer to buy a cheaper device just to see if she’d like the idea behind it. I purchased a holy trainer v2 knockoff on amazon, and we played with it for a while. She liked the idea and was all for embracing it, so I ordered a couple different cheapo stainless amazon cages in an effort to re-learn my sizing and see what we liked.

I stumbled upon MaleChastityNow, and showed Goddess how awesome they looked. She told me to save up for one. It wasn’t much longer later and I had clicked Submit… and my order was in.

My first Contender was 440$ and Mark was amazing through the whole process. His first reaction to my ordered measurements was to send me a message verifying that I actually wanted such a small cage. I assured him that I knew what I was doing (Famous last words? lol) and he proceeded with the build. From date of payment, I had my device in less than 5 days. Now anyone who’s ordered from anyone else, probably knows that this seems miraculously fast… Let me tell you. It IS fast.

Here’s what I settled with on my first Contender.
 – Base Ring (inner diameter): 1-5/8 inches (41mm)
 – Base Ring Shape: Oval
 – Ring to Cage Gap: 3/8 inch (9.5mm)
 – Cage Ring (inner diameter): 1 inch (26mm)
 – Flaccid Length: 2-1/2 inches (63.5mm)
 – Lock Style: I’d like a Padlock
 – Optional Prince Albert Upgrade: 4 Gauge – 3/16″ – 5mm
 – Piercing Setback: 1/2″

As soon as I had the device Goddess wanted me to get a locking cock ring. An email and a payment later, I had an 1 1/8″ shiny new locking cock ring 3 days later.

Marks craftsmanship is unparalleled. He simply is in a league of his own when it comes to working with metal to contain all those naughty little cocks out there. My device fit, it was tight, secure, and comfortable…. at first.  Yep, it wouldn’t be my story if there wasn’t a problem.  I want to clarify this right now though, this time it was all my fault. Never would I ever think that I actually ordered a device TOO small!!! I didn’t wear it long enough to discover that the base ring was too small as well, more on that later.

Since this was in no way Marks fault, I sent him a couple emails back and forth telling him I wanted a second cage. He was amazing throughout all of this process. My second order went like this.

Next Order: (Base ring not included)
  – Ring to Cage Gap: 3/8 inch (9.5mm)
  – Cage Ring (inner diameter): 1 1/4 inch (32mm)
 – Flaccid Length: 2 inches (51 mm) 
 – Lock Style: I’d like a Padlock
 – Optional Prince Albert Upgrade: 4 Gauge – 3/16″ – 5mm
 – Piercing Setback: 1/2″

Again, his service and speed in making and delivering orders is blazing fast. I had the new cage paid for on a friday, and monday morning it was in my mailbox. This cage portion fit perfectly. I had room to shrink and grow, blood wasn’t trapped by the tight cage anymore, so Goddess kept me locked during one of my longer road trips. Well, during that road trip the 1 5/8″ oval base ring decided to let me know it was too small and rubbed two very angry spots on my sack.
Marks website only offered 1 5/8″ and 1 3/4″ but I knew from previous experience that 1 3/4″ was too big. I emailed him again, and he quickly responded that he could make me the in between size of 1 11/16″ (round this time instead of oval) and even offered to discount it. I wouldn’t accept the discount because I know how much goes into working stainless. Paid, shipped, arrived over a weekend again, super fast. I can’t thank Mark enough for sticking with me throughout the entire process, I owe him a beer or 10 if I ever am through his area.
TLDR: I went through a lot of devices to end up with my Unicorn perfect fit device. The Contender by Mark at http://www.malechastitynow.com is the best fitting, best looking, lightest weight, most secure and comfortable device i’ve ever owned. It’s also the first device I’ve ever ordered that didn’t need finish work.
Thanks for reading!